Surrogacy for LGBTQIA in USA, Process, Cost and Law

Surrogacy for LGBTQIA in USA, Process, Cost and Law

Vinsfertility has been helping gay and trans individuals, and couples in becoming parents for the past decade. Our strategic programs and partnerships have helped in making gay surrogacy possible.

A Guide to LGBTQIA+ Parenting

Introduction to Surrogacy

  • Overview of Gay Surrogacy
  • What to Look for in a Surrogacy Agency
  • Becoming a Gay Parent
  • LGBTQ+ Surrogacy Laws

Starting a Surrogacy Journey

  • The Surrogacy Process
  • Surrogacy Costs & Program
  • Financial Assistance For Surrogacy
  • Finding an Egg Donor
  • Finding a Surrogate Mother
  • LGBTQ+ Partnerships & Organization

Overview of Gay Surrogacy

Surrogacy can be classified into 2 types- traditional surrogacy and gestational surrogacy. Traditional surrogacy is the one in which the surrogate’s own egg is used for making the embryo, thus connecting her genetically with the baby. This surrogacy is usually not practiced by surrogacy agencies.

Another type- Gestational Surrogacy is the more common type of surrogacy and is the only option for LGBTQ+ individuals and couples to have biological children. Along with medical and legal expertise, the surrogacy process also needs strong emotional support. A technique called IVF is used to create embryos in a fertility clinic, wherein the biology of gay intended parents (one or both) and donor eggs are used. The surrogate is called to the fertility clinic, where 1-2 embryos are implanted inside her uterus.

Gestational surrogacy makes sure, that the gestational carrier has no genetic link to the child she carries in her womb.

What to look for in a surrogacy agency?

Surrogacy for LGBT

Vinsfertility has been helping gay and trans individuals, and couples in becoming parents for the past decade. We have extensive experience in surrogacy, which is a very complicated process by nature.

The surrogacy journey needs a tremendous amount of planning, coordination, and legal help. Since surrogacy agencies work with intended parents on daily basis, they are experts in surrogacy.

Here are 3 things you should look for in an agency as a parent-to-be:

1. Ability to protect your rights

Vinsfertility has a team of highly accomplished lawyers, who make sure that your parental rights are protected and affirmed. We are always here to help you become a parent in the safest way possible, whether it is by obtaining a second-parent adoption, judgment of paternity/maternity, or custody orders.

2. Experience in working with LGBTQ+ individuals

The legal team at Vinsfertility has knowledge and experience in the legal rights of the LGBT community and keep themselves updated in case the laws changes. Each state and country has its own set of laws and regulations for LGBTQ intended parents. If you want to have a positive and successful surrogacy journey, then work with an agency, which has a high level of expertise in social work and law.

3. Partnership and support throughout the journey

Large surrogacy agencies like Vinsfertility are a one-stop agency, i.e., we are able to provide intended parents with all the services throughout their entire journey. We have program managers, coordinators, social workers, and lawyers all under one roof, thus eliminating the need for intended parents to go to any third party.

Becoming a Gay Pregnant

Welcoming a child into your family via surrogacy is one of the biggest joys one can experience in their life. You will finally be able to hold the baby you have always dreamed of having but also develop a bond with your gestational carrier. To have a family that you desire, surrogacy is a safe way.

For the last decade, Vinsfertility has been working hard to develop a process, which practically guarantees a baby to those who are yearning for a family. Vinsfertility has a success rate of 99.9% in surrogacy. This is the highest success rate in the entire industry.

LGBTQ Surrogacy Laws

Surrogacy laws are complex and vary by state. However, don’t let that stop them from you becoming a parent. It is important for you to consult a lawyer who is specialized in surrogacy for LGBTQIA couples and singles.

How is surrogacy different for LGBTQIA+ intended parents?


Even though surrogacy is mostly similar for heterosexual intended parents and same-sex intended, there are a couple of factors that make it different.

It is vital to have an understanding of your rights as a parent, the surrogacy laws in your state or country, and the place where your surrogate lives.

Common legal procedures for gay parenting

Pre-Birth Order (PBO)- PBO is a court proceeding, in which parental rights are established before the birth of the child. However, not all states have this. There, it may be possible to get a post-birth order.

Voluntary Acknowledgement of Paternity- This allows the birth mother to designate the birth, sometimes with no need for a court proceeding.

Custody Order- Intended parent(s) are granted custody of the child.

Second-Parent Adoption- Here, the rights of the non-biological parents to the child are permanently established. It is advised to get a second-parent adoption. Because pre-birth orders or post-birth orders are not recognized everywhere, whereas adoption is accepted worldwide.

Wills and Estate Planning- Ensure that if one or both parents die, the child is provided guardianship. It becomes very important to establish these documents if a gay couple is living in a state or country, where same-sex marriage is not legal.

Legally match with a surrogate who is right for you.

Our team works hard to find perfectly matched intended parents and surrogates, on the basis of 3 criteria, in which legal fit is the first. We also make sure that to have a successful surrogacy journey, your surrogate resided in a state, where you will be able to establish your parental rights safely and securely.

The Surrogacy Process

The surrogacy process might be complex for intended parents, like- the requirement of an egg donor and a gestational surrogate, the surrogacy laws for the LGBTQIA+ community, selecting a surrogacy agency and a fertility clinic. Working with a surrogacy agency will help you navigate through the milestones present throughout your journey. This will help to focus on the most important thing- preparing for your baby’s arrival.

How to find a surrogacy agency?

  1. Research thoroughly and learn all there is to know about surrogacy.
  2. Make a list of your requirements in the surrogacy journey. What type of relationship are you looking for between you and the surrogate? What level of support do you want throughout your surrogacy journey.
  3. Make a list of agencies, that fit the criteria you have designed and reach out.

Researching and choosing a surrogacy agency

Beginning your journey toward gay surrogacy is a big step, hence it is imperative to do thorough research on the agencies. Not every surrogacy agency is a good match for you, you need to find an agency, with which you share good chemistry as well as views on surrogacy for gay couples or individuals. This is the key to a successful journey. And, since surrogacy laws vary from state to state, it is important to work with an agency that has a legal team expert in ART and surrogacy.

Finding a surrogate and an egg donor

When you decide to grow your family via surrogacy, two very important people come into your life: surrogate and egg donor. You might have a family member or friend who wants to become your egg donor, if not, you can select an egg donor from an egg donor database.

If you working with a surrogacy agency, your agency will help in finding a surrogate match for you. If you pursue surrogacy independently, you will have to find a gestational carrier on your own. It is advised to gt a surrogacy agency because surrogacy is an intimate experience and Vinsfertility will encourage to you have a good bond with the woman who will carry your baby.

Pregnancy and parenthood

Yeah! Now your surrogate is pregnant and you will become a dad in some while! Your relationship with the surrogate mother will develop and perhaps you will even visit her for appointments. Your agency will support you throughout the journey, prepare for traveling for the birth and ensure that you have everything needed to safely return back home.

Surrogacy costs and programs

Vinsfertility offers surrogacy programs guaranteed costs with our all-inclusive cost program. The surrogacy programs and pricing are designed in a way that two of the primary needs of intended parents are fulfilled; success and cost security.

Vinsfertility’s Journey Protection Guarantee Program is designed to assist as many intended parents as possible in welcoming a baby into their family, at economic prices.

Surrogacy Package At Vinsfertility

Surrogacy Procedures Average Surrogacy Cost in USA
Surrogate Screening Fees US$ 700.00
Surrogate psych screening US$ 600.00
Surrogate background check US$ 100.00
Legal Fees US$ 8,500.00
Setup fee US$ 750.00
Surrogate insurance review US$ 300.00
Surrogate contract prepration (legal fees) US$ 2,500.00
Surrogate contract review (legal fees) US$ 1,250.00
Surrogate Pre-Birth Order US$ 3,000.00
Pre-birth order filing and court fees US$ 200.00
Surrogate review of Pre-Birth Order US$ 500.00
Surrogate Compensation & Expenses US$ 60,450.00
Surrogate compensation US$ 54,000.00
Health Insurance premimum x 12 US$ 6,000.00
Surrogate life insurance US$ 450.00
Clinical procedures US$ 21,700.00
Donation, ICSI, Fertilization US$ 15,000.00
Monitoring Lab work US$ 350.00
Surrogate medical screening included
Egg donor screening US$ 1,000.00
Egg donor meds US$ 2,000.00
Embryo freezing US$ 600.00
Surrogate travel for FET (assume 4 days) US$ 2,000.00
Surrogate meds (pre-FET) US$ 750.00
Surrogate meds (post-FET)
Surrogate meds (first trimester)
Surrogacy, prenatal care and delivery US$ 5,000.00
Health Insurance out of pocket maximum US$ 5,000.00
All exams and prenatal medical care
Total Approx fees with A Fresh Egg Donor US$ 100,000.00- US$ 150,000.00

Financial assistance for surrogacy

It is our aim to keep the cost of surrogacy programs as low as possible for LGBTQIA+ individuals and couples in the US and beyond.

Finding an egg donor. How do you choose the right egg donor?

Finding an egg donor is a big step in your surrogacy journey. This is a stressful process as you have to select a young woman, whose DNA will make up the half biology of your baby. You cannot create an image of what your child will look like. Sometimes, intended parents base the characteristics they want in their egg donor on those of a family member or friend.

Appearance? Education? Ethnicity? Personality? As you begin with your research, keep in mind some thoughts and the requirements you want in your egg donor.

Most important, Nature vs Nurture-not every characteristic or trait is hereditary!

Egg Donation Program at Vinsfertility

  • Vinsfertility has a  thorough egg donor screening process
  • We offer unlimited Egg Donor Matching
  • We are the most experienced egg donation agency.

Finding a Surrogate Mother

Finding the woman who will become your gestational carrier and carry your baby is one of the most exciting parts of your surrogacy journey to parenthood. Have trust in your surrogacy agency to find the best surrogate match for you.

The first steps to finding a surrogate mother.

The surrogates at Vinsfertility are ecstatic at the prospect of helping LGBTQIA+ individuals and couples build families via surrogacy. They understand firsthand the joys of parenthood and want others to experience this joy.

Both intended parents and gestational carriers will fill out a questionnaire asking them about the type of match they need, their expectations from this journey, and the level of communication with which they are comfortable. This information should be filled in honestly so that our Matching Team can find the best match for you.

Surrogate matching preferences for gay dads

While working with agencies like Vinsfertility, there are certain criteria, on the basis of which you will be matched with your surrogate. Intended parents matching criteria depends on their preferences on:

  • Level of communication with their surrogate during the journey
  • Location of the surrogate mother
  • numn=ber of embryos to be transferred
  • Views on selective reduction and termination

If you are planning to pursue an independent surrogacy journey, you can use above guidelines as the basis of selecting a gestational carrier for your surrogacy.

3 criteria for matching surrogates and LGBTQIA+ parents

  • Appropriate legal fit

In the US, each state has its own surrogacy laws and regulations. Also, each country we assist has different laws and requirements, when it comes to surrogacy. Hence, our legal team makes sure that the surrogacy laws in the state where the surrogate will deliver the baby complement the laws of the state or country in which the intended parents live. In the US, each state has a legal department, that always approves a match from a legal POV before matching a surrogate’s profile is shown to the intended parents. Vinsfertility will never present a match to you, which is not legally safe.

  • Personality fit and surrogacy expectations

Once the legal team has thoroughly checked the surrogate profiles, the list presented by them will be reviewed by the matching team to ensure good personality fits since we want both parties to have a comfortable journey. We hold meetings and phone calls with both parties to help determine your personality and expectations as it relates to surrogacy. 

  • Expectations surrounding termination and selective reduction

To create a match of IPs and surrogates with similar thinking, we ask both of their views on the termination of a pregnancy. This is to make sure that if a situation arises where a reduction or termination is considered, the thoughts of both parties are aligned.

Building a strong relationship with your surrogate

Vinsfertility believes that to have a smoother and more successful surrogacy journey, it is important for the intended parents and the surrogate to have a strong relationship. Regular communication with their surrogate helps the intended parents to have a bond with her and also feel a part of the pregnancy and process.

To create this bond, we suggest a video call at least once a week between the intended parents and the surrogate.

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